Transcending Reality

Life through the eyes of Angel

Being that I already carried the mother title, I figured I knew a little something. I know better to know that I actually know nothing in the grand scheme of things, for there is so much to learn in life.

I remember the days when I first became a mom, I literally knew nothing. My whole world was shaken upside down, and while it was again this time there is something completely different about it.

Sleep deprivation is real. Stress can and will kill you. Motherhood, fatherhood, parenting in general is not for the faint of heart. As my mom always said you kids don’t come with a handbook. I have never heard a more truer statement said.

With my first I knew I wasn’t going to get any sleep but I have never experienced it before. With my second I knew what to expect not that its any easier. I am just more at peace with it. I cherish the moments I have with my kids because I know they are only temporary. I look at my son and I am so proud to be his mom, he is such a sweet kid doting on his little sister. I remember him being this little, where has the time gone?

Being a parent has forced me to take a closer look. To see what it is that I am leaving them, what lessons are most valuable? My kids are my life and I wouldn’t trade being their mom for anything. How lucky I am to have them.

Facing yourself is difficult, but I woild rather do the difficult thing now than have my children face those consequences. They are watching. They are listening. What are you showing them? What are you telling them? Those words you utter under frustration, they are storing it. Those hurtful things you say to yourself about yourself and to others and about others, that becomes their voice. The you can’t do that becomes them.

I thought I knew motherhood. But I don’t. I will always be learning. I do know that by following my heart I can’t go wrong.

I have stressful days, where curse words are most prevalent. I have patient days, where laughter ensues. But all of my days are filled with love; and that I wouldn’t change for the universe.

I am going to start off this year on the right feet. I choose to be the best version of me I can be. I choose to be the best mother I can be. I will remind myself to forgive moments that pain me, kids that test me, people that frustrate me and most importantly me for holding myself to such unrealistic expectations.

Nothing will be perfect when I try, but yet when I stop and appreciate how everything unfolds I realize it already is.

Being a new mother comes with many challenges. There are many things I wish that I knew when I was having my first. But with everything time and experience lend a hand at paving the way for the future. Now that I am pregnant with my second I have noticed a lot of differences from my first. I will share some of my best tips for adjusting to motherhood, but please know that not everyone has the same experiences. As with all people, all children and pregnancies are different.


Ill tell you something, I find myself stressing far more than I can remember with my first. It seems time is flying and I inevitably cannot keep up no matter how hard I try. This sweet bundle of joy will be arriving in less than two weeks and her room is not where I want it to be. My son’s room is not even where I want it to be. But, that is the beauty of it all. Nothing will ever be perfect, you will always be adapting. So try to relax and do a little at a time. As time will show you, the way you set things up prebaby will not necessarily remain the same because your needs will change based on what the baby needs.

Your expectations of your surroundings and most importantly yourself are trivial to optimal health. Lower them if they are too high, your body is going through enough stress there is no need to add more. Your baby will love you no matter what. I promise you.


No, really. There are so many things you think you need to raise a healthy baby, so many things that claim they make it easier. Truth of the matter is, you only need a few things. The basic needs of a baby are often blown out of proportion. Babies eat sleep and go to the bathroom. Truly it is that simple. Are there other things that help with that? Of course. If you are stressing out about how you will be able to get everything to appease your child, stop. I can not emphasize this enough, you need to stay as relaxed and calm as possible. Your baby can feel it. You will get everything you want in due time. I know plenty of people who got the “best” swing and their baby hated it. You need just a few things: Swaddles, bottles (or breast), diapers. You want a bunch of things. There is a difference.


Yes, you heard that right. I will scream it from the mountain tops. Mothers have enough to worry about, they should not be made to feel bad if the choose not to breast feed or are incapable of doing so. Am I promoting formula? No absolutely not. I was fortunate enough to breast feed my first and I hope I am able to do so with my second. Breastfeeding is hard. Anyone who tells you any different is lying to you and most importantly themselves. Pregnancy is hard. Motherhood is hard. But you know what? It is worth it in the end. Emotions and hormones are crazy especially right after the birth of your baby. Do not add on to it because someone else feels you should be doing things a certain way. Do it because you want to, do it if you can. If not just make sure you give your baby whatever it needs to grow healthy.


I am sure you have heard it before and you will probably hear it again. But it is the truth. If you want to give your baby the best possible chance, you need to take care of yourself. Listening to the needs of your body are essential to the well being of your child, they literally go hand in hand. This is so so important. You need time to decompress, to release all those emotions that are coming up for you. You need to be able to have a level head and a heart full of love. Those dishes will be there, those clothes will be there, all the stuff you think need to be done can wait. I assure you, no harm will be done if you do not accomplish all those tasks to keep a clean house. Your body needs you, your baby needs you. There are many ways to care for yourself after baby has arrived, but what works for me may not for you. That is okay. Find what works for you. Take a hot shower, bath if you are able to, go for a walk, nap, make some tea, do anything that brings you peace of mind.


Enjoy your new bundle of joy, this time you will never get back. They grow so fast, trust me. Laugh, laugh and laugh some more.

Orange juice, or atleast thats what jack thinks it is. Although sometimes he does refer to it as carrot juice.

Either way, I’m just Happy that he drinks it!

He used to eat so well. He loved his peas and i was able to sneak veggies in his homemade chicken nuggets but now that he is older he decided he doesn’t like it.

As im sure like most of you with children understand that once you reach this point you very quickly realize something needs to be done. SOMEHOW, through miracles, you need to get some nutrition into your kids.

Vitamins, sure he eats it like candy. Jack actually reminds me of his vitamins. But I’m trying to raise a health minded child to become a health conscious adult one day. I don’t want him thinking he can take a magic pill that gives him everything he needs, or will solve all of his problems.

One day I was talking with some co workers about juicing. I bought a juicer awhile back after a different coworker explained how wonderful they were. I found one at a local thrift store and figured what the heck. After that one almost caught fire, I decided to buy a new one and try again. When it finally arrived I was pretty much haunted by the first experience and was too afraid to try again.

How silly right? I know, very silly.

Well I got over that fear quite quickly after the second conversation at work. Another mom was explaining how she juices veggies because its the only way she can get her daughter to consume them. I needed to try it at this point.

After scouring the internet I finally found a simple one that we love. The best part, its super healthy and nutritious!

Without further adue,

Ingredients :

  • 2 carrots (washed and peeled)
  • 1 pear (peeled and quartered, seeds removed)
  • 1 orange (peeled)

Juice all together and voila, you have yourself a modified orange juice.

Having your child(ren) assist you in the kitchen is an easy way to engage them. You can teach them various types of fruit and vegetables. They can do simple tasks and learn how to safely handle things. You can educate them on nutrition and best way to prepare them.

Jack loves to help. He loves to put the vegetables and fruit in the juicer. I have him count them, what color, and what they are called. After all his hard work he gets to drink it. Yum.

Win win.

Have you ever stopped and smelled the.. lavender?

I love roses too, but this post is strictly for my love of lavender.

Such a versatile plant, with such beauty. The scent alone can put me in a trance let alone watching as it flows through the wind. I have a beautiful budding lavender bush in my backyard. I would have a million if it was up to me, I mean I did have two… but we won’t even go there.

Its amazing really, as much as I love herbs and plants and gardening I am terrible at keeping them alive. I have to thank Justin for that, because he definitely saves them alot. Maybe one day I’ll aquire a green thumb.

There are so many things you can do with lavender. You can make tea, bath salts, soaps, salves, lotions, and so so much more. There are so many benefits of using lavender that you can learn from here.

Today I made bath salts, with previously dried lavender. Lucky for you, I will show you how I did it. Super simple, and if you have kids its so much fun to do. Just be prepared for making a mess!

I gathered all my dried lavender, and a bowl. My little helper and I, separated the lavender from the stems by running our fingers along it.

Then we played with the lavender, smelled it, talked about the bees 🐝 and how much they also loved it, the color and so much more!

Ahh okay so here’s how we made lavender bath salts, yummm my favorite!


Mix it all together and voila amazing and relaxing bath salts!