Transcending Reality

Life through the eyes of Angel

Often times I forget that I am human. That I do make mistakes and I may not always make the best choices. Although I really do have the best intentions, my actions may disprove them. There are many instances, especially now, that my patience is slim to non existent. While I will agree that is nothing to boast about; it is the truth and that is precisely how I choose to live accordingly.

Come back to love, that is where you will thrive.

The past is in the past so as long as we learn from it. We will continue making the same mistakes, often passed down from past generations, if we don’t first look within. We need to do better for future generations. It begins with me because frankly if I don’t walk the walk how could I ever talk the talk?

I have been watching my son and how I respond to him. Such a beautiful soul he has and no I am not just saying that because I am his mother; okay I may be a little biased but still.

Just today, I was so frustrated because he was getting peanut butter everywhere. I put his screaming almost two month old sister in the rocker, wiped his hands and the couch and stormed into the kitchen. Fuming thinking of such a mess that was made. After I came out of the kitchen I noticed his sister wasn’t crying, in fact she was sleeping! He put her pacifier in her mouth and turned it on so it would rock her!

Astounded, I asked him if he did that. He sure did! This boy who I was just mad at two seconds ago blew me away with his kindness. He pushed me right back into love showing me that is where you thrive. In that moment I realized who cares if he has sticky fingers touching everything? Who cares if the place is a mess? My son just lovingly helped his sister to fall asleep. He saw she was distressed and in need of comfort and swooped right on in and helped.

I could either react to the situation as I was doing or I could respond lovingly.

This is a lesson I am grateful for. Not only did it show me to have a little more patience, but it also reminded me that he is learning and is also human. He is seeing what we are doing, how we respond, he is taking it all in. I could either react to the situation as I was doing or I could respond lovingly. I could teach him by showing him as that is exactly how he is learning. Be proud that he was actually eating his peanut butter and apples instead of a happy meal. In order for me to do that I first need to remember that I am not perfect, because that is where the solution exists. I was too concerned with the mess to realize the beauty within that moment. I cant teach him from a place of love if I am unhappy with where I’m at.

I am grateful that I was able to come back to love so quickly, for it shows all of the hard work I have already put in. Whereas I am also grateful for the impatience because that proves that there is work to be done.

I am grateful for being able to be a mother for it has been such a huge catalyst for my growth. Yes I was already expanding but now I need to I have no other choice.

With much love and gratitude,

Angel Leah

Being that I already carried the mother title, I figured I knew a little something. I know better to know that I actually know nothing in the grand scheme of things, for there is so much to learn in life.

I remember the days when I first became a mom, I literally knew nothing. My whole world was shaken upside down, and while it was again this time there is something completely different about it.

Sleep deprivation is real. Stress can and will kill you. Motherhood, fatherhood, parenting in general is not for the faint of heart. As my mom always said you kids don’t come with a handbook. I have never heard a more truer statement said.

With my first I knew I wasn’t going to get any sleep but I have never experienced it before. With my second I knew what to expect not that its any easier. I am just more at peace with it. I cherish the moments I have with my kids because I know they are only temporary. I look at my son and I am so proud to be his mom, he is such a sweet kid doting on his little sister. I remember him being this little, where has the time gone?

Being a parent has forced me to take a closer look. To see what it is that I am leaving them, what lessons are most valuable? My kids are my life and I wouldn’t trade being their mom for anything. How lucky I am to have them.

Facing yourself is difficult, but I woild rather do the difficult thing now than have my children face those consequences. They are watching. They are listening. What are you showing them? What are you telling them? Those words you utter under frustration, they are storing it. Those hurtful things you say to yourself about yourself and to others and about others, that becomes their voice. The you can’t do that becomes them.

I thought I knew motherhood. But I don’t. I will always be learning. I do know that by following my heart I can’t go wrong.

I have stressful days, where curse words are most prevalent. I have patient days, where laughter ensues. But all of my days are filled with love; and that I wouldn’t change for the universe.

I am going to start off this year on the right feet. I choose to be the best version of me I can be. I choose to be the best mother I can be. I will remind myself to forgive moments that pain me, kids that test me, people that frustrate me and most importantly me for holding myself to such unrealistic expectations.

Nothing will be perfect when I try, but yet when I stop and appreciate how everything unfolds I realize it already is.

Being a new mother comes with many challenges. There are many things I wish that I knew when I was having my first. But with everything time and experience lend a hand at paving the way for the future. Now that I am pregnant with my second I have noticed a lot of differences from my first. I will share some of my best tips for adjusting to motherhood, but please know that not everyone has the same experiences. As with all people, all children and pregnancies are different.

NOTHING WILL EVER BE PERFECT

Ill tell you something, I find myself stressing far more than I can remember with my first. It seems time is flying and I inevitably cannot keep up no matter how hard I try. This sweet bundle of joy will be arriving in less than two weeks and her room is not where I want it to be. My son’s room is not even where I want it to be. But, that is the beauty of it all. Nothing will ever be perfect, you will always be adapting. So try to relax and do a little at a time. As time will show you, the way you set things up prebaby will not necessarily remain the same because your needs will change based on what the baby needs.

Your expectations of your surroundings and most importantly yourself are trivial to optimal health. Lower them if they are too high, your body is going through enough stress there is no need to add more. Your baby will love you no matter what. I promise you.

WHATEVER YOU NEED, YOU WILL GET.

No, really. There are so many things you think you need to raise a healthy baby, so many things that claim they make it easier. Truth of the matter is, you only need a few things. The basic needs of a baby are often blown out of proportion. Babies eat sleep and go to the bathroom. Truly it is that simple. Are there other things that help with that? Of course. If you are stressing out about how you will be able to get everything to appease your child, stop. I can not emphasize this enough, you need to stay as relaxed and calm as possible. Your baby can feel it. You will get everything you want in due time. I know plenty of people who got the “best” swing and their baby hated it. You need just a few things: Swaddles, bottles (or breast), diapers. You want a bunch of things. There is a difference.

FED IS BEST.

Yes, you heard that right. I will scream it from the mountain tops. Mothers have enough to worry about, they should not be made to feel bad if the choose not to breast feed or are incapable of doing so. Am I promoting formula? No absolutely not. I was fortunate enough to breast feed my first and I hope I am able to do so with my second. Breastfeeding is hard. Anyone who tells you any different is lying to you and most importantly themselves. Pregnancy is hard. Motherhood is hard. But you know what? It is worth it in the end. Emotions and hormones are crazy especially right after the birth of your baby. Do not add on to it because someone else feels you should be doing things a certain way. Do it because you want to, do it if you can. If not just make sure you give your baby whatever it needs to grow healthy.

MAKE SURE TO TAKE CARE OF YOURSELF.

I am sure you have heard it before and you will probably hear it again. But it is the truth. If you want to give your baby the best possible chance, you need to take care of yourself. Listening to the needs of your body are essential to the well being of your child, they literally go hand in hand. This is so so important. You need time to decompress, to release all those emotions that are coming up for you. You need to be able to have a level head and a heart full of love. Those dishes will be there, those clothes will be there, all the stuff you think need to be done can wait. I assure you, no harm will be done if you do not accomplish all those tasks to keep a clean house. Your body needs you, your baby needs you. There are many ways to care for yourself after baby has arrived, but what works for me may not for you. That is okay. Find what works for you. Take a hot shower, bath if you are able to, go for a walk, nap, make some tea, do anything that brings you peace of mind.

HAVE FUN.

Enjoy your new bundle of joy, this time you will never get back. They grow so fast, trust me. Laugh, laugh and laugh some more.

Orange juice, or atleast thats what jack thinks it is. Although sometimes he does refer to it as carrot juice.

Either way, I’m just Happy that he drinks it!

He used to eat so well. He loved his peas and i was able to sneak veggies in his homemade chicken nuggets but now that he is older he decided he doesn’t like it.

As im sure like most of you with children understand that once you reach this point you very quickly realize something needs to be done. SOMEHOW, through miracles, you need to get some nutrition into your kids.

Vitamins, sure he eats it like candy. Jack actually reminds me of his vitamins. But I’m trying to raise a health minded child to become a health conscious adult one day. I don’t want him thinking he can take a magic pill that gives him everything he needs, or will solve all of his problems.

One day I was talking with some co workers about juicing. I bought a juicer awhile back after a different coworker explained how wonderful they were. I found one at a local thrift store and figured what the heck. After that one almost caught fire, I decided to buy a new one and try again. When it finally arrived I was pretty much haunted by the first experience and was too afraid to try again.

How silly right? I know, very silly.

Well I got over that fear quite quickly after the second conversation at work. Another mom was explaining how she juices veggies because its the only way she can get her daughter to consume them. I needed to try it at this point.

After scouring the internet I finally found a simple one that we love. The best part, its super healthy and nutritious!

Without further adue,

Ingredients :

  • 2 carrots (washed and peeled)
  • 1 pear (peeled and quartered, seeds removed)
  • 1 orange (peeled)

Juice all together and voila, you have yourself a modified orange juice.

Having your child(ren) assist you in the kitchen is an easy way to engage them. You can teach them various types of fruit and vegetables. They can do simple tasks and learn how to safely handle things. You can educate them on nutrition and best way to prepare them.

Jack loves to help. He loves to put the vegetables and fruit in the juicer. I have him count them, what color, and what they are called. After all his hard work he gets to drink it. Yum.

Win win.