Transcending Reality

Life through the eyes of Angel

Being a new mother comes with many challenges. There are many things I wish that I knew when I was having my first. But with everything time and experience lend a hand at paving the way for the future. Now that I am pregnant with my second I have noticed a lot of differences from my first. I will share some of my best tips for adjusting to motherhood, but please know that not everyone has the same experiences. As with all people, all children and pregnancies are different.

NOTHING WILL EVER BE PERFECT

Ill tell you something, I find myself stressing far more than I can remember with my first. It seems time is flying and I inevitably cannot keep up no matter how hard I try. This sweet bundle of joy will be arriving in less than two weeks and her room is not where I want it to be. My son’s room is not even where I want it to be. But, that is the beauty of it all. Nothing will ever be perfect, you will always be adapting. So try to relax and do a little at a time. As time will show you, the way you set things up prebaby will not necessarily remain the same because your needs will change based on what the baby needs.

Your expectations of your surroundings and most importantly yourself are trivial to optimal health. Lower them if they are too high, your body is going through enough stress there is no need to add more. Your baby will love you no matter what. I promise you.

WHATEVER YOU NEED, YOU WILL GET.

No, really. There are so many things you think you need to raise a healthy baby, so many things that claim they make it easier. Truth of the matter is, you only need a few things. The basic needs of a baby are often blown out of proportion. Babies eat sleep and go to the bathroom. Truly it is that simple. Are there other things that help with that? Of course. If you are stressing out about how you will be able to get everything to appease your child, stop. I can not emphasize this enough, you need to stay as relaxed and calm as possible. Your baby can feel it. You will get everything you want in due time. I know plenty of people who got the “best” swing and their baby hated it. You need just a few things: Swaddles, bottles (or breast), diapers. You want a bunch of things. There is a difference.

FED IS BEST.

Yes, you heard that right. I will scream it from the mountain tops. Mothers have enough to worry about, they should not be made to feel bad if the choose not to breast feed or are incapable of doing so. Am I promoting formula? No absolutely not. I was fortunate enough to breast feed my first and I hope I am able to do so with my second. Breastfeeding is hard. Anyone who tells you any different is lying to you and most importantly themselves. Pregnancy is hard. Motherhood is hard. But you know what? It is worth it in the end. Emotions and hormones are crazy especially right after the birth of your baby. Do not add on to it because someone else feels you should be doing things a certain way. Do it because you want to, do it if you can. If not just make sure you give your baby whatever it needs to grow healthy.

MAKE SURE TO TAKE CARE OF YOURSELF.

I am sure you have heard it before and you will probably hear it again. But it is the truth. If you want to give your baby the best possible chance, you need to take care of yourself. Listening to the needs of your body are essential to the well being of your child, they literally go hand in hand. This is so so important. You need time to decompress, to release all those emotions that are coming up for you. You need to be able to have a level head and a heart full of love. Those dishes will be there, those clothes will be there, all the stuff you think need to be done can wait. I assure you, no harm will be done if you do not accomplish all those tasks to keep a clean house. Your body needs you, your baby needs you. There are many ways to care for yourself after baby has arrived, but what works for me may not for you. That is okay. Find what works for you. Take a hot shower, bath if you are able to, go for a walk, nap, make some tea, do anything that brings you peace of mind.

HAVE FUN.

Enjoy your new bundle of joy, this time you will never get back. They grow so fast, trust me. Laugh, laugh and laugh some more.

Orange juice, or atleast thats what jack thinks it is. Although sometimes he does refer to it as carrot juice.

Either way, I’m just Happy that he drinks it!

He used to eat so well. He loved his peas and i was able to sneak veggies in his homemade chicken nuggets but now that he is older he decided he doesn’t like it.

As im sure like most of you with children understand that once you reach this point you very quickly realize something needs to be done. SOMEHOW, through miracles, you need to get some nutrition into your kids.

Vitamins, sure he eats it like candy. Jack actually reminds me of his vitamins. But I’m trying to raise a health minded child to become a health conscious adult one day. I don’t want him thinking he can take a magic pill that gives him everything he needs, or will solve all of his problems.

One day I was talking with some co workers about juicing. I bought a juicer awhile back after a different coworker explained how wonderful they were. I found one at a local thrift store and figured what the heck. After that one almost caught fire, I decided to buy a new one and try again. When it finally arrived I was pretty much haunted by the first experience and was too afraid to try again.

How silly right? I know, very silly.

Well I got over that fear quite quickly after the second conversation at work. Another mom was explaining how she juices veggies because its the only way she can get her daughter to consume them. I needed to try it at this point.

After scouring the internet I finally found a simple one that we love. The best part, its super healthy and nutritious!

Without further adue,

Ingredients :

  • 2 carrots (washed and peeled)
  • 1 pear (peeled and quartered, seeds removed)
  • 1 orange (peeled)

Juice all together and voila, you have yourself a modified orange juice.

Having your child(ren) assist you in the kitchen is an easy way to engage them. You can teach them various types of fruit and vegetables. They can do simple tasks and learn how to safely handle things. You can educate them on nutrition and best way to prepare them.

Jack loves to help. He loves to put the vegetables and fruit in the juicer. I have him count them, what color, and what they are called. After all his hard work he gets to drink it. Yum.

Win win.

Have you ever stopped and smelled the.. lavender?

I love roses too, but this post is strictly for my love of lavender.

Such a versatile plant, with such beauty. The scent alone can put me in a trance let alone watching as it flows through the wind. I have a beautiful budding lavender bush in my backyard. I would have a million if it was up to me, I mean I did have two… but we won’t even go there.

Its amazing really, as much as I love herbs and plants and gardening I am terrible at keeping them alive. I have to thank Justin for that, because he definitely saves them alot. Maybe one day I’ll aquire a green thumb.

There are so many things you can do with lavender. You can make tea, bath salts, soaps, salves, lotions, and so so much more. There are so many benefits of using lavender that you can learn from here.

Today I made bath salts, with previously dried lavender. Lucky for you, I will show you how I did it. Super simple, and if you have kids its so much fun to do. Just be prepared for making a mess!

I gathered all my dried lavender, and a bowl. My little helper and I, separated the lavender from the stems by running our fingers along it.

Then we played with the lavender, smelled it, talked about the bees 🐝 and how much they also loved it, the color and so much more!

Ahh okay so here’s how we made lavender bath salts, yummm my favorite!

Ingredients:

Mix it all together and voila amazing and relaxing bath salts!

Salt and sugar look the same. That’s how I remember the saying to go, and it is even more fitting now then ever. While it is easy to remember what other people do and say have nothing to do with you, it is even harder to apply that principle and not react when something does happen. What a beautiful and timely reminder. Although in some moments I dont quite agree, because my emotions get the best of me.

Completely and temporarily wrapped up in my own emotions unable to see the bigger picture, but isn’t that really the beauty? Reflection; a powerful and necessary tool we should all utilize. The truth is, when these emotions surface they are a reminder that something is a miss; to dig deeper and find an answer. Why am I feeling this way? What is this person doing or saying that is causing these surge of emotions? Is there something I am missing, something I need to release?

When my emotions have subsided for the most part, I am able to see a clearer picture. It is easier then to take a step back and see it from different perspectives. From there you won’t be acting on impulse but making a wise decision with new information assisting you.

Often times people pretend to be nice. They hide behind fake smiles and attitudes that make even the more experienced of us to be blinded by their ways. I encourage you to watch people’s true intentions by watching their actions. Words are easy to manipulate but actions do not lie. There are many people who do things so they feel they are of importance because they actually lack self esteem. People who try and control things because they themselves feel out of control. As soon as they don’t get their way they will either cower, run, say or do rude and mean things, take jabs at you while trying to maintain a nice persona.

Far too long I was naive and blinded by the bullshit. I was engulfed in most of these peoples stories and lost within the hope of their lies. My wish for you, is to shed some light on these behaviors so that you too don’t fall into the traps I once did. That you become aware of the constant games you fall privy to while believing the best in people. Salt and sugar may look the same, but the way they taste are completely different.

Look for those who defend others when they are not around; those who speak the truth. You will never wonder where you stand. Seek those who share your values and won’t try to undermine everything you do. Find those who accept you, and I mean truly accept you. Often times you don’t have to look, they will find you. Don’t believe what anyone tells you, go within, and see how it feels for you. Dig deeper when people tell you things because most times they aren’t telling you everything they save the best bits for themselves.

Don’t ever underestimate the power within because you can literally move mountains of thats what you truly desire. Don’t let salt fool you into believing it is sugar.